Telling my Parents that my Spouse would be Transitioning (MtF)

We decided to tell my parents in March 2023. At this point Brooke was on HRT. She was dressing as herself more often at home and we worried mom and dad would drop in for a visit. That isn’t how we wanted anyone close to us to find out.

I was raised Catholic, and my parents are very involved with their church. Thankfully my parents were never the type of Christians to spread hate or force their religion on others. They are the loving type of Christians who support food banks and families who are less fortunate.

I often say be careful who you hate because it might be someone you love. On that same note it’s important to know that your words carry so much meaning to those around you deciding if you are someone, they can confide in. I am happy to say that even though my parents are older (in their 70s) and very religious they had shown me signs, with their actions and words over the years that let me know that at the end of the day if I was happy, they would support Brooke and I.

Once again, similar to when I told my sister it was difficult to get started, but once I was beginning to get use to my speech and it came naturally. The important thing I needed my parents to understand was I had been working with a therapist and was confident in my decision to stay in my marriage. I loved the person I married, and their gender didn’t change that.

My mom asked questions. My dad tried to relate and told a story as close to our situation as he could. Once again my amazing family showed me love and support. I am truly blessed with wonderful people in my life. As blessed as I feel, I also feel frustration that everyone can’t get the response we did. Why can’t everyone see through the differences and care for their family regardless of gender or sexuality.

They both still struggle with remembering her name and really struggle with the pronouns but we know they are trying their best. The first time my mom saw Brooke as herself she said “You look so beautiful” and gave her a big hug.